The Anatomy of WE

NO!! NO!! NO!! not another half cooked half mushed relationship advice here. Ya I know the feeling of getting unsolicited half brain advice for the sake of advice and we definitely won’t drain our time like that here (for that we will go to social media sites:)).

For now let’s talk about anger in relationships. Every relation, at certain point of time, reaches a stage where we get angry with each other for no apparent reason. Like for not putting plate in the sink, or not putting shoes out of the room or for forgetting something. This happens in all the relations be it Husband-Wife, Friends, Boyfriends-Girlfriends, Parents- Children etc. But what exactly is happening. Ya, I know the psychoanalysis will say that they are not spending enough time with each other and not paying attention to each other hence the situation , but that we all know, don’t we. Then where is the glitch? I think, when in time  forget to acknowledge that the other person with us has emotions which like a water bottle gets empty on continuous pouring out and unless we refill it from time to time, it will get finished at some point of time after which there will be nothing left from which we can moist our own parched soul that is the time when the halt happens.

Relationships need nurturing (I know age old rant it is but its true). Time, as always, is the biggest investment, but not the only one, your presence & your devotion play major role too. No, I am not talking about remembering all the birthdays, anniversaries, of yours or of your parents, your in-laws, friends or of your dogs, or of bosses. Here I mean the good stuff, like making surprise calls once in while to "just because", like playing some cards and cheating on it, like being totally ridiculous together and laughing your ass off. The responsibilities of relationships weigh us down. We try to win others by gifts, but just wait a minute and think about it. When we give presents to someone or wish someone we automatically expect certain obligatory behavior from them (we are hardwired that way). But doesn't it sounds like an unfair business deal? We give gifts showing our happiness, while expecting others to reciprocate our action obligatorily (not necessarily willingly). How this is fair? Let's just stop that. Let's stop buying relations and start building ones which actually matter. Put your back in there people. There are no shortcuts in life. Make the investments of efforts (It will help in budget cuts 😋). We are so lost in hustle and bustle of life that we forget to live, we loose ourselves somewhere on the way. Come on!! Take it as another chore upon yourself of finding "YOURSELF". Imagine this time you have advantage of experience. 

Robin Williams said it best in Movie "GoodWill Hunting". Sharing a small clipping encapsulating the idea. The link is curtsy youtube.  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8mn3nLPSMY